BE Mag QOTD: The Closet…Stay In or Come Out?

BEing gay has never really BEen synonymous with urban Hip Hop, but in our current day, all doors to the “closet” seem to BE opening (Nicki Minaj based her career upon “playing” with Lil Freaks both male & female & now Frank Ocean has “allegedly” come out). So what’s your take, is Hip Hop more accepting? Here’s our QOTD. The Closet…Stay In or Come Out?


6 Replies to “BE Mag QOTD: The Closet…Stay In or Come Out?”

  1. I feel that celebes are role models regardless if they want to be or not, so of he/she choose to come out and say to the whole world “HEY IM GAY AND PROUD” then we as others need to realize that it is hard to realize who you are and commend him/her for their strength and courage to stop hiding from who they are.

  2. Sometimes I feel as if some celebrities do it for attention. They may use play on words or even some actions may display some type of gesture that seems gay. But there are others that are sincere about coming out the closet. Meaning, they really have been struggling with this for a couple years or so and want to get it off their chest. The Hip Hop culture is a little more accepting on the subject but you will always find those individuals that will find a way to poke fun at the person, unfortunately.

  3. I guess the first question is come out as what? When people identify as anything other than straight often both straight & gay people tend to lump them into the “gay” box. So if you’re bi, pan, questioning, trans, or self-defined it is just as wrong as being labeled straight. But if you do decide to come out its important to remember that it is PERFECTLY legal to be fired from your job, denied housing, and be otherwise discriminated against in 29 states, over half the country. And even when you do come out you will constantly be put in situations where you are assumed straight and must decide whether or not to come out, yet again, for the umpteenth time. I came out as queer at 16 and though it was one of the best, most liberating decisions I ever made it was years of work after coming out before many benefits could be seen. Coming out is not easy and can endanger your career, stability, housing, & your very life.
    Also, there’s just something wonky about requiring one group of people to do something that we don’t require others to do and I’ve never had a straight friend come reveal their secret heterosexual tendencies to me. With all that said it is wholly up to the individual if they* want to come out. But if we could all be honest about whom we love or how we identify the world be a vastly more ideal place.

  4. i am going to be careful with my choice of words because i have mixed feelings on this topic. first, i would like to give prompts to frank ocean for having the courage to open up not only to his fans but to the public. regardless of my feelings frank gave a voice to someone out there. someone who was going through the same thing frank was being challenged with. with that said for everyone that now wants to make frank ocean the poster child for black gay men—i don’t think that’s needed. no this isn’t a reply from a heterosexual male who doesn’t understand “the lifestyle.” i too am homosexual & i feel frank didn’t write that open letter to become the poster child for black homosexuals. i believe he wrote it to get something off of his chest & not to monopolize on being “gay” like other artist have done i.e. nicki minaj. guess the point i’m trying to make is just because he revealed he was homosexual or bi does not mean that’s ALL he is. don’t reduce him to just only being the face of homosexuality for this generation. he’s more than that. he’s a man, he’s a great songwriter & great singer that just happened to have had a relationship with a male. in addition, for those of you in shock or disbelief please know that frank ocean isn’t the only one out there who has carried a relationship with someone of the same sex but he is the only one who was bold enough to come @ the situation head on.

  5. Rather a national star or a popular person in your city, it takes a lot of courage to come out.. I think because it doesn’t happen often, the hype gets blown out of proportion. The rise of social media sites give critics a voice like never before making it important, before any personal life disclosures, one should consider the career impact (no matter what it is). I think that hip hop has redefined itself so many times, people are just taking cue from the popular opinion. Gay men, in my opinion have always suffered more ridicule then women… if a man does ANYTHING homosexual.. he gay.. no if ands or butts about it.. but two girls get together and its “sexy” a “phase” or she’s just a freaky liquor lesbian. Someone like Rihana wouldn’t have gotten as negitive of a response like Frank O.
    I say all that to say this; it ain’t for the weak at heart. If you want to come out then do so while knowing you can’t please everybody.

  6. Sexuality is such a taboo subject in some genres & industry that sometime you stray away from ur truth but for some, they rather not sell their happiness for a pipe dream. Its really only the black community that look sideways at those confessing their inner most skeleton….

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